The core of high Emotional Intelligence is self-awareness. If you don't understand your own motivations and behaviours, it is nearly impossible to develop an understanding of others. Discuss with the help of appropriate examples.

So Emotional intelligence first require knowing own motivations and behaviours.

For eg - when an officer is required to control a crowd he/she is required to be emotionally intelligent.

But one should first know how to properly react in such a situation.

If the officer knows his/her behaviour in a stressed situation then he/she can handle the situation well by restricting himself/herself to take bad decision.

Once own feelings are understood, one becomes more capable in taking decisions and also in understanding other's situation & feelings.

Thus this helps in taking rights decision & controlling & moulding other's behaviours & actions for better society & results.